The Video link below shows great points when you are dealing with a Narcissist. You will have folders full of evidence to help prove your point. You can even show them it all – BUT they will never admit to anything. In fact, they will still try and turn it all around and blame you even if it is their fault and all there in Black and White. (and involve their own flying monkeys who they are also manipulating)
You can not have a Logical conversation with an Illogical person. Micheles advice here is golden and a great reminder when you fall into the belief – “Oh maybe this time they will understand” because they never will, as they Don’t actually want to. Because they are a Narcissist. The tantrums are golden, and all you can do is recite any of the 8 Phrases she shares here. Don’t get roped into their world, it’s a world with only one person in it – themselves.
PHRASES TO USE
“You are allowed to feel that way”
“Thank you for letting me know how you feel”
“Well I just wanted you to know how I feel” (after they start blame shifting)
“I hear you”
“Thank you for expressing your viewpoint”
“I’m sorry you feel that way”
“I agree to disagree”
“I choose to see things differently”
Thanks Michele and check out her youtube channel if you need more help here.
My tip: Keep a list of the ridiculous things they have done and said to you over the years. The ones that if you told any “normal” person their eyes would pop bigger than a Maori doing the Haka !
Read them to remind you how crazy it is to waste time negotiating with them because unless they feel they have WON, they will keep badgering you – or worse still, they will play the victim , gaslight the hell out of you and sit back and laugh as someone else goes into bat for them. Don’t have pity on either of them. Just run the other way if you have no ties to them. Block the hell out of them on any socials and find out your rights if you need to get Intervention orders.
In Hand Analysis the Jupiter Fingers represent:
Master Path: POWER, VISIONARY, PASSIONATE
Student Path: Powerlessness, Overwhelm, Victim, Numbness
If one is your Life Lesson then the way THROUGH is to claim back you Power.
Being with a Narcissist, (Partner, Boss, Parent) can be the representation of that. Here to teach you to CLAIM BACK YOUR POWER
There will be times when you have wanted to numb out from them (or having to deal with them) with all kinds of weird things they have you believe is normal
THE MORE POWER YOU TAKE BACK the less they will be able to be around you.
THE MORE PASSIONATE YOU ARE ABOUT YOUR PURPOSE – the more they can not stand to compete with you and move on
THE BIGGER THE VISION YOU HAVE FOR YOUR DREAMS – the more you can stay on your PATH TO PURPOSE.
Narcs come in all shapes and sizes, all genders and races.
If you think this post is about YOU then, you are a Narcissist and you need to move on and get some help – but then Narcs never do because they never think they are the issue.
Your map in your hands will help you through the biggest challenges of your life – you were born with them and they have been with you the whole time.
Take a look at them now and realise they are your story – the one behind you and more importantly the ONE IN FRONT OF YOU.
RELATIONSHIPS are our biggest growth opportunity – staying conscious to it is the Game.
I will be sharing at Path to Purpose how to reclaim your Power and stay on your True PATH TO PURPOSE.
